Monday, May 23, 2011
sekilas info
Monday, May 9, 2011
Regret
Wednesday, May 4, 2011
How to Ignore People You No Longer Wish to Be Around
Steps
- 1Ask yourself this: Ignoring someone is a serious decision and it could really hurt them - make sure you're ready to cut ties with this person for good. Don't plan on ignoring someone for a day or week just to get attention. If you can approach the person directly with your problems first, then turn to ignoring them if they still won't solve them. Remember that people make mistakes. If you feel you've come into contact with someone toxic, or have run out of ways to solve the problems, you need to get yourself out of the situation or relationship. Unfortunately, most people are weak and a simple apology will bring them back.
- 2Know the motive behind their actions. Before you resolve to ignoring someone, consider not only what they did to bring you to this point, but also why they did it. Don't just ignore someone to make a point, although it is a powerful way to make a point - that is immature and will slow down any resolution. If you need time away from them then you should tell them so. If you've reached the point where you really can't put up with them any more, they are probably aware of the problem too.
- 3Before you give them the cold shoulder, try voicing your concerns or telling them you need to "take a break". If you can both see the good in separation, everything will be more peaceful and less intense.
- 4Be direct with them. Firmly tell them why you don't want to know them any more. You don't have to be nasty about it. You can be polite and respectful; however, you need to let them know you aren't available any more. Some people will still refuse to accept this though, so you will have to be very clear. Stop taking calls from them, don't read their emails, and block them on instant messenger. Don't be rude or rub it in and don't give into their attempts to provoke you into response. Just stop communicating with them at all. Don't bicker. If they approach you in public or start making rude comments, clearly tell them you want them to leave you alone from now on.
- 5If they continue seek help. Tell them that if they do not leave you alone, it is considered harassment and you will inform a fitting authority. In most cases things will not escalate to this level, but if they do you need to show them you are willing to put an end to it and fast. In other cases go ahead and file a complaint with the authorities anyway. Sometimes, a preventative action is best and will ensure little or no contact.
- 6Understand the consequences. This person will be angry. Being rejected by a friend is hard to cope with and some do it better than others. Prepare yourself. Inform mutual friends that you intend to end contact with this person and if they have questions answer them - don't be too eager to talk about this person though. The point is removing them from your life and dwelling on the issue will be counter-productive. If you need to, inform family members you don't want to be contacted by them. Don't try to get others to join your "side" or get involved - if your target tries to do this to you, react by letting people know that they can make up their own minds. Let them know your position. You just want to let it go and be left alone. Most people will understand this and if they don't they eventually will. You should, however tell mutual friends that they will have to "choose sides" in the matter or they will be ignored as well.
- 7Ignore the steps below if the steps above have helped. If they're still persistent in their attempts to engage you in any form of conversation, then continue.
- 8Focus on your reasons again. Why do you want this person to get out of your life? Remember the ways in which they limited you and how they hurt you. Feel good about your mature reaction. Ignoring someone can be difficult and is the last step you should take, so your reasons must be firm.
- 9Refrain from all communication with the person. You should already be doing this, but they will try to make you pay attention to them - first by being angry in return, then by trying to let you know what a bad person you are for ignoring them. Once you don't give in they will try to work through other people, eventually becoming vindictive - showing up where you work or yelling at you if they catch you alone. Even if you don't want to pursue legal action, the threat alone may get them to stop. If it continues seek the help of an authority figure, even if that means contacting a lawyer.
- 10Stop greeting them. Don't feel like you need to say anything to them for etiquette's sake. Should contact be absolutely necessary, minimize it as much as possible.
- 11Don't respond when they say hi. If they really won't stop, just say "Please don't talk to me," and walk away.
- 12Never make eye contact with the person. Not even accidentally. Don't acknowledge their presence. If they say things like "You can't even look me in the eyes," don't respond. Tell them assertively that you want them to move on.
- 13Manage your schedule. This is to ensure that you don't come into contact with that person.
- 14Forget all those bitter remarks that the person makes about you. Even if they say your house smells like rotten pumpkin, they're just attention-seekers and they want to annoy you. If they persist, file charges. It is harassment.
- 15Keep yourself busy. Spend time doing your own activities like knitting a sweater or playing sport. Try to develop a new hobby just to get away from the person. Do not invite them to watch any of these activities. They may be oddly attracted to you afterwards.
- 16Celebrate the freedom! Enjoy the peace of mind knowing that person is not actively a part of your life.
- 17If they are on your Facebook contact list - there are several ways to ignore a person who is constantly harassing you on Facebook.
- If it's by email/wall post - don't respond and delete the email or wall post.
- If it's photographs - delete the offending photographs and/or remove any tags if any.
- By putting yourself offline.
- By removing that person off your friends lists.
- By blocking and/or reporting that person.
- If they request to be your 'friend' on Facebook - decline their request.
18CUSTOMIZE your privacy settings and LOCK your page so that ONLY close friends and family can see your information and your photographs. Also provide none or as little of your personal information on Facebook, do not display the following:- Your landline/s and mobile telephone numbers.
- Your full date of birth (either omit your birthday or just put the day and month), this prevents ID theft.
- Your home address (if you want to say where you live, just give your town e.g. Westhoughton, Bolton, Manchester, Blackpool, Liverpool etc.)
- The names of your School/College/University/Workplace and also the names of your Teachers/Employers/Managers/etc.
- Any of your bank, money and financial details e.g. credit card number, national insurance number etc.
- Any sensitive information about you and/or your family such as medical conditions or disabilities and sensitive topics such as HIV positive, sexual orientation, past backgrounds etc.
Friday, April 15, 2011
how to get a guy to like you
Steps
- 1Like yourself. You've got to show this person how awesome you are, but first you need to know how awesome you are. Build up your self confidence. Now, this doesn't mean you have to be loud, boisterous, arrogant, chatty, or forward. It just means getting to a place where you are comfortable in your own skin. You can be secure, sweet and humble all at the same time. Guys like confident, interesting girls who have their own lives. The only guys who like insecure girls are the ones who are insecure themselves. But who wants to be with a guy who wants a girl to feel bad about herself? That's not healthy, and you deserve better.
- 2Something you should consider is letting him know you are single. Wearing a "single bracelet" will do the trick and they are stylish. There are very nice ones at www.single-heart.blogspot.com. He's not going to hit on you if he thinks you're taken.
- 3Get his attention. He can't fancy you if he doesn't know you exist. If you haven't caught his eye yet, then get him to notice you. You've got to walk before you run, right? Say "Hi". Say "Good-bye". Wave. When he reciprocates, is when you know he notices you.Introduce yourself somehow and make conversation. Take an interest in who he is--what he likes, where he's coming from, where he wants to go--and show him who you are, too. While some guys don't like to talk that much, it's nearly impossible for someone to like you if he doesn't get to know you--unless he "likes" you for all the wrong reasons.
- 4Crack a joke. Having a good sense of humor makes everything better. That doesn't mean you should be a giggling fool, laughing at everything that crosses your path. Express your sense of humor in your own way. Some people are witty and sarcastic, others can tell hilarious stories, and many people just do quirky things and poke fun at themselves. No matter what tickles your sense of humor, it's much easier to like someone who you can have a good laugh with once in a while. If you don't find something to laugh about together, then maybe you'll discover that you don't like him after all!
- 5Dont be afraid to be his friend. Being his friend first gives you two great benefits: he gets to know you and you get to know him- without it having the awkwardness of a relationship. Treat him like you would all your other friends- but if it gets too platonic, you might lose the romantic connection.
- 6Do things together. If he loves rock-climbing, ask him if he can show you how, and make a good-faith effort to see why he's so into it. Have an open mind. Find out what you have in common, and include him into your world. If you love a certain kind of music, ask him if he's ever listened to a particular artist and offer to play a CD for him. Finding activities that you can enjoy together can really lay down a bond and further his appreciation of you.
- 7Have patience. These things take time. You can't force someone to like you, and trying to hurry things up can ruin the courtship altogether. Give him some space anddon't be obsessive. Let things progress at a natural pace, or fade out of natural causes. Eventually he'll tell you one way or another whether or not he's interested in reciprocating your affection. And if he's not, don't hang around him like a lost puppy. Sometimes you might be incompatible in ways that you don't see, and sometimes a guy just isn't ready for a long term relationship. Don't take rejection too personally. It happens. Not everyone in the world is going to like you. Move on! There are other fish in the sea and if you followed the first step, you know that you're a good catch.
how to make someone fall in love with you
Steps
- 1Love yourself. Whether you're goofy, silly, crazy, quirky, smart, or reserved. How can you expect a person to love you if you feel unlovable? You have to show this person how awesome you are, but first you need to know how awesome you are. Build up your self-confidence.This means getting to a place where you're comfortable in your own skin. You can be secure, sweet and humble all at the same time.
- 2Share a good laugh. It's been said that laughter is the sound of love. If you share many laughs together, you're both going to be a lot more receptive to love. However, don't put on a show, or make yourself a clown just to make someone laugh. The best laughs are spontaneous, and result from having a positive attitude towards life.
- 3Pace yourself. You might be crazy about this person, but if you want a steady kind of love (rather than a fling that flares and fades quickly) then you're going to need to be patient and take your time. Don't be obsessive or suffocating. Give him or her the time to think about what life could be like with you by their side. You can't force someone to love you, and trying to hurry things up can ruin the courtship altogether. Let things progress at a natural pace, or fade out of natural causes.
- 4Get to know the person inside out. Always be accepting and open-minded. He or she will sense this and feel like you're the only person who truly knows them, and thus, the only person they can be their uninhibited selves around.
Thursday, April 7, 2011
how to study well
1 If you know when your next big test is, write it down on your calender or planner about 2 weeks to a month before. Each day, study for about half an hour. If you have classes that are harder for you, maybe you could study for 45 minutes to an hour.
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Call up your friends who are in that class and ask if you want to have a study session. Make sure the ones you call are good about getting there work done so you don't get distracted.
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Listen and take good notes in your class. A lot of the things that the teacher says will most likely be on the test.
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Do not try to study when you are tired or hungry. Your mind is not going to be fully engaged in what you are doing. So eat, get some good sleep and study the next day.
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If you have been studying all this time for the test you should be fine. The day before the test, you should get at least 8 hours of good sleep